Kasha Thompson @kayslay_allday
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We all have a story about someone who ended up in a relationship that was unhealthy. Everyone could see that the couple was not good for one another and needed to cut ties and get a fresh start. You know that old saying, love is blind. We often don’t recognize a toxic relationship when we are in it because we are too busy making excuses. So, let take a closer look at some of the signs that may indicate that you or someone you care about is in a toxic relationship.
Give it to me baby - Toxic partners are looking to get things from you. Your time, your attention, your emotional support. But often times these partners don’t show up when you need them. If you find yourself listening to their issues and supporting their dreams with no reciprocation then you may be dating an emotional leech. Relationships are all about giving and receiving. If you’re emptying your cup and never getting it replenish then what's the point.
Lack of trust and little to no useful communication. Rule #1: If you can’t trust someone then you shouldn’t be with them. If you have to constantly question your mate’s intentions how do you expect to build a healthy relationship. Trust is earned through actions. If your girlfriend is making shady moves or moving in silence not sharing their vision with you that could be a deal breaker. Trust and communication tend to go hand in hand. When you and your partner have an open line of communication you can often move past issues that arise because you can talk through it like adults. If you find yourself with someone who shuts down or who seems to like confrontation over communication that may be a red flag.
You jealous bro? Jealous of your relationships with your friends and family. Jealous when you say thank you to the cashier at the Whole Foods. Jealously has a lot to do with your partners own insecurities and may have nothing to do with you. A jealous lover can turn into a controlling partner so be mindful. Jealous behavior can got from "sexy" to restraining order quick, fast, and in a hurry.
Respect yourself - Does your boyfriend belittle you and make you feel less than? Does he make you comfortable in front of others with unkind jokes at your expense. Ma’am you are dating an entire clown. Don’t let anyone try to dull your shine. Love is far from perfect but it should never make you feel like a piece of shit.
These are just some of the signs of a toxic relationship. Relationship like this can compromise your mental health and physical wellbeing. If you find yourself in a situation that is out of your control don’t suffer in silence. Tell others, seek help, and make a plan to end the relationship safely.